423 | Why comparing yourself to coworkers who *seem* more confident stifles your true potential
Stop comparing yourself to others who seem more confident - it's stifling your potential
Have you ever watched a coworker speak up in a meeting – calm, poised, totally composed – and immediately felt your own confidence deflate? If comparing yourself to other people leaves you feeling like you're behind, or like everyone else has something you don't, this episode is for you.
Here's the truth: constantly comparing yourself to others who seem more confident is one of the most damaging things you can do to your self confidence and the comparison you're making probably isn't even accurate.
In this episode, I explain why people who look calm and self-assured on the outside often don't feel that way inside, how your brain invents "evidence" that everyone else is more confident than you, and how to stop comparing yourself to other people so you can build real, unshakable confidence.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- The difference between visible comparison and blind comparison – and why one is far more dangerous to your self confidence
- How confirmation bias makes you imagine that everyone around you feels calm and confident (even when they don't)
- Why chasing a perfectly calm emotional state keeps your confidence stuck
- Two powerful mindset shifts to help you stop comparing yourself to other people for good
It's time to stop letting comparison shrink your voice, and start building the psychological stamina that makes you unstoppable at work.
Work with me:
If you're ready to build that stamina, there are two ways to work together:
1:1 Private Coaching — individualized sessions tailored to your exact situation: https://jessguzikcoaching.com/coaching/
The Art of Speaking Up Academy — my group program with a step-by-step curriculum for building unshakable confidence and learning to speak like a true leader: